He
was an excellent Dad. He loved his children more
than his
life. His dream was to attend his children's
graduation and dance at his daughter's wedding. I
have never seen a more patient and loving man. He
was the light of our lives. He was the sun of our
universe.
Without him, the Jayant family is lost. We will
love him and remember him for forever.
We
have 2 children ages 4 and 9. This whole nightmare
began 4.5 years before. He was diagnosed 2 days
after I delivered my daughter. His tumor was in
his left
temporal lobe. All he had was a little confusion,
and due to my pregnancy, I was so busy concentrating
on the new child that I did not see it.
Anyway, the doctors gave him 3-6 months.
He went through surgery, radiation and a whole
year of
chemo with minimal side effects. After that, we
had 4 very tumor free years. Even the doctors at
Duke called him a statistical anomaly. In fact,
his MRI in August, 2005 was normal and we went
on vacation to Richmond, Virginia.
Disaster
stuck when we came back. His tumor came back in October
with a vengeance. It had spread and was inoperable.
We panicked and went back to Duke (we live in NY).
The chemos were very effective and he almost came
back to normal - he was working from there with his
laptop. But
around April, things took an ugly turn. In spite
of everything, the tumor started growing back and
then
there was no helping him. I had to take care of him
like a child, he did not know how to take a bath,
shave and by end of May he could not even swallow.
The
tumor had spread all over his frontal lobe and was
pressing his stem. Doctors gave him 2 weeks. The
last 15 days were hell. He knew he was sick and would
just smile when I said he would be fine. He told
me to go back to NY to take care of the kids and
when I said "we will go together," he just smiled.
He slipped into a sleepful state for three
days and opened his eyes only once to see his children.
He
took his last breath in my arms. Very sad. I was
holding him as he struggled with every breath
- he was inching closer to death. All I could do
was watch. That was the worst.
I
tried everything in my capacity but failed. He was
a good man until the last minute. Thank you for
letting me post and tell our story. Now I feel like
a living
body whose soul is gone. I guess I am living only
for the children. Even without seeing all of you,
I feel very close to you because I have felt
your pain and fear.
Please
visit
Naresh's memorial website at: http://naresh-jayant.memory-of.com |
